Him (m26) and I had a super beautiful relationship, it lasted about 3 years. I really did love him and I think it’s because it felt like we were two people from the same soul. But those similarities are what took us down, we were so similar, there was no one to pull the stop trigger when we’d let our selves indulge too far. Him and I couldn’t grow as people if we stayed together so I cut it of because I couldn’t see a successful future with him.
Sometime later I met my fiancé, both of us had been through long term relationships that didn’t work out and didn’t want to go through that pain again, our priorities, values and goals matched on paper so we decided we were in a place where we wanted to settle down, we got engaged and are to be married soon. I love him, we work. We’re very different and he’s the balance I need in my life, but sometimes I hear a song that reminds me of my ex and I can’t help but uncontrollably cry. I don’t want to be with him because we tried “working on our selves” far too Many times for me to know i was wasting time there at that point but he was such a huge part of my life my actual best friend I just hate that he isn’t in my life anymore at all. And I feel so guilty for having these feelings. I don’t believe in being friends with exes, especially not him I know we have too much history to keep it platonic. Is this normal ? Or am I a pos.
I’m not claiming either of these relationships were perfect, but what I didn’t find in the last one I found here, but that connection of being the same person is what I miss I guess, he always understood me and knew what to do, my fiancé and I have a lot of learning about each other to do, which he’s very much efficient about, I have no complaints about him.
Tldr; is it normal to miss an ex when you’re engaged to another person
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